Attachment Therapy in Reno, NV & Online throughout California and Nevada

Attachment therapy helps you understand why relationships feel the way they do—and how to create new patterns that feel secure instead of exhausting.Your attachment style develops through your earliest relationship experiences and continues to shape how you experience closeness, trust, conflict, and emotional safety as an adult. Whether you struggle with anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, or another insecure attachment pattern, attachment therapy helps you understand where those patterns came from and how they can change.If you find yourself overthinking conversations, fearing rejection, people-pleasing, pulling away from intimacy, or feeling like you have to earn love, these patterns often make sense in light of your early experiences. Together, we'll explore how your attachment patterns developed and how they continue to influence your relationships today.Using Attachment Therapy, EMDR, Internal Family Systems (IFS), and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), we'll help heal the experiences beneath those patterns—not just manage the symptoms. Our work focuses on helping your nervous system experience greater safety, so you can move beyond survival strategies and begin building secure, emotionally safe relationships.The goal isn't to change who you are. It's to help you discover that you're already capable of experiencing secure, emotionally safe relationships—and becoming the kind of partner you've always wanted to be.

Yes. Attachment styles can absolutely change.Attachment patterns are learned through relationships, which means they can also heal through relationships. While your early experiences may have shaped how you respond to closeness, conflict, trust, and emotional safety, they don't have to define your future.Healing doesn't mean you'll never feel anxious, avoidant, or triggered again. It means those patterns no longer control you in your relationships. Through our work together, you'll learn to trust yourself, communicate your needs with confidence, and regulate your nervous system. As you heal, you'll spend less time overthinking or shutting down and more time feeling secure enough to stay connected, even when relationships feel challenging.Through attachment therapy, EMDR, Internal Family Systems (IFS), and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), we'll work together to help you create new experiences that foster a more secure attachment. My goal is to help you experience the kind of secure, emotionally safe relationships you've been longing for—and discover that you're capable of becoming the partner you've always wanted to be.

Absolutely. Many people with anxious or avoidant attachment describe having a "good" childhood and may still have loving relationships with their parents today.Attachment patterns aren't determined by whether your childhood was good or bad. They're shaped by many early relationship experiences and by how consistently you felt seen, understood, comforted, and emotionally safe.Sometimes these patterns develop because caregivers were doing the best they could while navigating their own stress, mental health, work demands, or life circumstances. Other times, they can be influenced by experiences outside the home, including relationships with siblings, extended family members, teachers, peers, or significant life events.If you find yourself overthinking relationships, people-pleasing, struggling to express your needs, or worrying about rejection, those patterns make sense, and they can change, regardless of how you describe your childhood.

If you find yourself overthinking text messages, fearing rejection, people-pleasing, or constantly wondering where you stand in your relationships, anxious attachment may be influencing the way you connect with others.People with anxious attachment tend to crave closeness but also fear losing it. You may find yourself overthinking conversations, needing reassurance, worrying you've done something wrong, or feeling responsible for keeping your relationships together. Even when nothing is wrong, your mind may prepare for the possibility that someone will leave, reject you, or stop loving you.You might notice yourself:Constantly replaying conversations or analyzing text messages.Feeling like you're "too much" one moment and "not enough" the next.Struggling to express your needs for fear of pushing others away.People-pleasing or putting others' needs before your own.Feeling anxious when someone needs space or doesn't respond right away.Having difficulty trusting that you're loved without having to earn it.These patterns often develop as ways to stay connected in relationships where love or emotional support felt inconsistent or uncertain.The good news is that attachment styles can change. Through attachment therapy, you can learn to feel more secure in yourself, regulate your nervous system, communicate your needs with confidence, and experience the kind of secure, emotionally safe relationships you've been longing for.

Both anxious and avoidant attachment styles develop as ways of protecting yourself in relationships—but they protect you in different ways.People with anxious attachment often cope by moving toward connection. They may overthink conversations, seek reassurance, fear rejection, or worry about losing the people they love. Deep down, they long for closeness but often struggle to feel secure in it.People with avoidant attachment often cope by moving away from connection. They may have difficulty relying on others, pull away when relationships become emotionally intense, or struggle to express vulnerability. While they value connection, closeness can also feel overwhelming or unsafe.Neither attachment style is better or worse than the other, and neither means something is wrong with you. Both are adaptations your nervous system developed to help you feel safe based on your early relationship experiences.The good news is that attachment patterns can change. Through attachment therapy, you'll learn to understand your relationship patterns, regulate your nervous system, and create a greater sense of emotional safety within yourself.Instead of surviving relationships, you'll begin to experience the kind of secure, emotionally safe connection you've been longing for.

EMDR helps you heal the experiences that shaped your attachment patterns—not just understand them.Many people with anxious or avoidant attachment already know why they react the way they do. The challenge is that insight alone doesn't always change how your nervous system responds in moments of conflict, uncertainty, or closeness.EMDR helps your brain and nervous system reprocess the experiences that taught you to expect rejection, abandonment, emotional distance, or the need to earn love. As those experiences become less emotionally charged, you'll begin to respond differently in your relationships—with greater calm, confidence, and emotional safety.Rather than simply managing your reactions, EMDR helps create new experiences that support a more secure attachment, allowing you to trust yourself, communicate your needs, and experience the kind of secure, emotionally safe relationships you've been longing for.